{"id":122651,"date":"2024-02-14T07:00:27","date_gmt":"2024-02-14T12:00:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lastwordonsports.com\/prowrestling\/?p=122651"},"modified":"2025-05-13T19:51:16","modified_gmt":"2025-05-13T23:51:16","slug":"lessons-love-learned-from-wrestling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lastwordonsports.com\/prowrestling\/2024\/02\/14\/lessons-love-learned-from-wrestling\/","title":{"rendered":"Lessons in Love Learned from Wrestling"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>As a child of the nineties and early 2000s, films and TV taught me a lot about love and relationships that my parents and schools were too embarrassed to teach me.<\/p>\n<p>Lots of films suggested as a man, I needed to be persistent. If she says no\u2026 just keep trying. Eventually, she will relent and love you. This is if you are a \u201cgood guy\u201d of course. It\u2019s a long game. And you do good things like stalking your beloved. Maybe even hire a PI to do it for you, like in <strong>Something About Mary<\/strong>. If you could be a bad guy, like John in <strong>The Breakfast Club<\/strong>, girls would love you faster.<\/p>\n<p>Being mean apparently made them keen. Even Disney, with films like Beauty and the Beast, suggested kidnapping and Stockholm Syndrome as effective methods of relationship building.<\/p>\n<p>Wrestling as pageantry and spectacle exaggerates cultural norms and attitudes. Wrestling amplified the messages taught to me by other media about love to eleven. Sometimes, it taught me even more.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><u>Tongue in my Cheek<\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Please be aware, if you have not picked up from my tone already, that this article is satirical and ironic. The purpose of this is not just for fun but to highlight how media, especially wrestling, has presented an absurd and warped view of love and relationships. You should be aware that none of these examples and fictional characters are role models for real life.<\/p>\n<p>So, as the warnings go, please do not try this at home, school, or <strong>anywhere.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And if I have missed any key lessons or storylines, please raise them in the comments.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><u>With Time, She Will Love You<\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/PuLnxM6i4jg?si=cc5TFMJaas78BsW7\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>One of the first love stories of my fandom repeated many lessons I had seen in Hollywood films. On <strong>Raw<\/strong>, <strong>Christian <\/strong>and<strong> Chris Jericho<\/strong> began coming to the rescue of <strong>Trish Stratus <\/strong>and<strong> Lita.<\/strong> The reasoning: to be friends. Lie! TV has taught me that men and women being friends is impossible in the long term.<\/p>\n<p>Yet the former world tag team champions and heels kept doing favours for Trish and Lita. When Lita was fired, the \u201ccreepy little b*stard\u201d Christian cashed in favour with Raw GM <strong>Eric Bischoff <\/strong>to save Lita\u2019s job.<\/p>\n<p>Lita was having a tough time. She was on the rebound after <strong>Matt Hardy<\/strong> dumped her. Later, Jericho used his favour to save Trish from facing <strong>Kane<\/strong>\u00a0instead of pursuing the World Heavyweight Championship. I just assumed this was the trope that a good girl can fix a bad guy. Like in <strong>10 Things I Hate About You<\/strong>. Nope.<\/p>\n<p>The pesky invisible camera cam caught Jericho and Christian\u2019s real intentions. They were betting on who could sleep with their girl first. This was just a sexed-up version of <strong>She\u2019s All That.<\/strong> The stakes: one dollar Canadian. Things fell apart as Trish also overheard, and the girls fought the boys at <strong>Armageddon<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>But despite the objectifying \u201cguy talk\u201d where he called Trish \u201cpathetic\u201d, Jericho really had developed feelings for her. So, he pursued her and, in early 2004, won Trish\u2019s heart! Happy ever after\u2026 More on this later.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><u>I Can Be \u201cUgly\u201d and Still Gain Love <\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/3REfqJv-aKg?si=YZupuw65xS8qYums\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Growing up, I had low self-esteem. I did not think I was an attractive young man. Wrestling gave me hope. If a wrestler who had severe burns and scars across his body could find love with multiple women over the years, so could I.<\/p>\n<p>Kane\u2019s nickname could be the \u201cBig Red Love Machine\u201d. Love has been weaved deeply into his dark, confusing, often retconned lore. Katie Vick, Tori, and Terri were there. \u201cChicks dig masks.\u201d Given the number of women who fall in love with serial killers, Kane\u2019s Mike Myers\/Jason gimmick must have hit a sweet spot.<\/p>\n<p>Yet, later, it was revealed that Kane experienced severe body dysmorphia when it turned out he was not horrifically scarred. His edge lord personality still helped him make love happen.<\/p>\n<p>On Raw, 19<sup>th<\/sup> April 2004, Kane made his affections known to Lita. However, because Kane was no good with words or romantic gestures, he beat up <strong>Val Venis.<\/strong> Then, he cornered Lita to imply his affection. The next week, Kane made it more obvious by sniffing Lita\u2019s hair. Could he have been clearer? Kane found he could get what he wanted by beating up Lita\u2019s ex, Matt Hardy. It won him a kiss at first.<\/p>\n<p>Weeks later, Kane had learnt from <strong>Triple H<\/strong> that kidnapping is an effective way to stop your potential partner from getting away. A WWE cameraman again watched on. Showing himself to be a fast learner, Kane threatened to destroy Matt Hardy\u2019s neck with a chair to gain something else from Lita.<\/p>\n<p>Eventually, Kane got Lita\u2019s love. After he impregnated Lita, winning a match for the rights to become her husband, a forced marriage ceremony and a chair shot caused Lita to lose the baby. Love is achieved through immense personal trauma.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><u>Friends Are Out to Stop You<\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Wrestling, like sports, is about being the best. It\u2019s about achievement and individualism. This means when a wrestler falls in love with a co-worker, automatically, their friends will assume they are selfish, especially because it distracts from the friend\u2019s personal goals for some reason.<\/p>\n<p>Going back to Jericho and Trish\u2019s relationship, Christian was not too thrilled. Christian pretended to befriend Trish by preventing <strong>Test<\/strong> from attacking her. Then, when GM (and enemy of love) Bischoff booked Christian to face Trish when Jericho was not in the building, Christian offered to do the gentlemanly thing.<\/p>\n<p>Nope, he put Trish in the Walls of Jericho. Jealous, Christian gloated he gave Trish \u201ctough love\u201d.\u00a0 The two former friends would fight at <strong>Wrestlemania XX<\/strong>. More on this later.<\/p>\n<p>Love facing the obstacle of family and friendship is a trope not exclusive to WWE. In <strong>AEW<\/strong> recently, the Romeo and Juliet-like nature of factions means not even two heels can have a relationship outside of their group. Why can\u2019t <strong>Angelo Parker<\/strong> and <strong>Ruby Soho<\/strong>, two consenting adults, not be together?<\/p>\n<p>Maybe <strong>Saraya <\/strong>does not want to lose another friend to a different kind of madness. What reason did <strong>Daddy Magic<\/strong> have to say no? The same logic that told him to tell <strong>Daniel Garcia<\/strong> to stop dancing. Yet, wasn\u2019t their faction based around being sports entertainers? What\u2019s more sports entertaining than love? Love makes even friends act crazy!<\/p>\n<p>In the end, it doesn\u2019t even matter when\u2026<\/p>\n<h3><strong><u>Even Love Turns Heel<\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/sOg7P3QM3nI?si=f1rwIoVwlybfh0z1\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>In no other entertainment media are the characters constantly in danger of betrayal. Your own family might betray you. Look at <strong>The Bloodline<\/strong> story last year. How can you trust a partner?<\/p>\n<p>In many of the previous (and the others to come) examples, the female turns their back on their partner.<\/p>\n<p>Trish Stratus enjoyed the tough love. At Mania, Trish proved to be the proverbial \u201cJezebel\u201d <strong>Jim Ross<\/strong> continues to call women who are treacherous. Trish slapped Jericho and passionately kissed Christian.<\/p>\n<p>Lita, despite all the emotional Stockholm Syndrome bonding, betrayed her beast Kane betrayed for <strong>Edge<\/strong>. This must have been traumatic for Kane, who had to watch Tori make out with X-Pac, his best friend.<\/p>\n<p>Do not get me wrong. The women also got cheated on and treated badly. Matt Hardy had dumped Lita before her romances with Christian and Kane. The reason? Lita wanted the women\u2019s championship more than Matt. That is pretty insecure and pathetic. But the commentators did not make this point with the same vitriol as they did for the backstabbing women. Even when <strong>Eve Torres <\/strong>betrayed <strong>Zack Ryder,<\/strong> commentary did not shame <strong>John Cena<\/strong> for betraying a broski.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><u>Do Not Get Married! <\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"YouTube video player\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/h-c6wDFjQ8I?si=derpEPSBJxdQz2-F\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Weddings are a scam anyway. So were many wrestling weddings in the literal sense. Like soap opera weddings, wrestling weddings usually end in drama and without a happy ending. You are likely going to get swerved.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe your bride was drugged, kidnapped and married while unconscious at a shady drive-through chapel. This fate befell <strong>Test <\/strong>when he was going to marry <strong>Stephanie McMahon<\/strong>. Even worse, his push ended after this ended. The wedding hurt his career prospects.<\/p>\n<p>The marriage might be a scam anyway, but still, things go wrong. <strong>The Undertaker\u2019s<\/strong> plot to marry Stephanie McMahon was still foiled by concerned do-gooder <strong>\u201cStone Cold\u201d Steve Austin<\/strong>. Rolls reversed; Stephanie tried to trick Triple H into renewing their vows in 2002 by lying about pregnancy. Stephanie had not learnt that the third time was not the charm. And even if you are both in on the scam, like <strong>Billy <\/strong>and<strong> Chuck<\/strong>, you might end up getting beaten down by the rival brand.<\/p>\n<p>Yet, even worse, weddings might mean death. Several men have died or almost died getting married in the ring. Poor <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/D8V74pj_H6E?si=vjJ503WhXBmRARG4\" target=\"_blank\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><strong>Al Wilson<\/strong><\/a> passed away on his honeymoon with <strong>Dawn Marie<\/strong>. <strong>Teddy Long<\/strong> had a heart attack induced by a performance-enhancing substance. But then these guys were old and, in storyline, lucky to have young brides.<\/p>\n<p>There has also been attempted murder. In <strong>Impact Wrestling<\/strong>, <strong>John E. Bravo <\/strong>was shot before he could say I do to his bride, <strong>Rosemary<\/strong>. Bravo lived, and his attempted murderer, Taya Valkyrie,\u00a0was rewarded with a WWE contract and a new identity in <strong>NXT<\/strong>. This cements that friends in wrestling will always stand in the way of love.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><u>Conclusion<\/u><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>If you are or know any wrestlers out there who are thinking about getting into an on-screen relationship with a co-worker, please share this article with them.<\/p>\n<h3>More From LWOS Pro Wrestling<\/h3>\n<p><em>Stay tuned to the\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/lastwordonsports.com\/prowrestling\/\" target=\"_self\">Last Word on Pro Wrestling<\/a>\u00a0for more on this and other stories from around the world of wrestling, as they develop. You can always count on LWOPW to be on top of the major news in the wrestling world, as well as to provide you with analysis, previews, videos, interviews, and editorials on the wrestling world.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As a child of the nineties and early 2000s, films and TV taught me a lot about love and relationships that my parents and schools were too embarrassed to teach me. Lots of films suggested as a man, I needed to be persistent. If she says no\u2026 just keep trying. 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